The lasting impact of abuse
There's been a lot in the news lately about the Sean "Diddy" Combs trial. A lot of disgusting facts have come out. I actually don't follow it very closely, but there is one thing I have noticed, which I find very frustrating. Everyone keeps asking why the women didn't leave him. They keep, in an accusing way, asking why the women praised him even after they were "free" of him. Well, for one thing, I'm guessing, it's because they were not, ever, really "free." Underneath such questions is the ever-present implication that somehow these women are at fault because they stay. What I haven't heard is conversation centered around the real reason women stay, protect him, and are hesitant to speak up against him. The power an abusive person has over another doesn't just go away when the official "relationship" has ended. The fear and control the abuser uses over their victim/survivor remains for a very lon...